We are a society obsessed with colour. And when women like Lupita Nyong’o come and change the equation, they help us envision an equitable world that does not discriminate based on colour of our skin tone.
Lupita Nyong’o was born in 1983 and is one of the leading Kenyan Mexican actress challenging and changing the norm today. Closer home, we have Nandita Das advocating that Dark is Beautiful and is an active member of this campaign launched in 2009 by Women Of Worth (WOW). To celebrate a decade of their work towards brining in this awareness, they launched the India’s Got Colour video with some well known actors. A heart warming yet deeply questioning video that I wish one and all in our country see and stop discriminating against girls and women based on their colour.
Coming back to Lupita Nyong’o, backed with a masters degree in acting from Yale, she is well known for her strong acting performances in both theatre and movies. Known for playing myriad roles in movies such as Star Wars – The Force Awakens, Queen of Katwe, Jungle Book (Jon Favreau), The Black Panther etc., she is most known for her role in 12 years a Slave that won her the Academy Award for Best Supporting Actress – only the sixth black woman to win one.
We would like you to read the speech that she gave in Essence Black Women in Hollywood event in 2014. A touching piece, she questions the fundamental definition of the word beautiful, and expands it to be more internal, irrespective of our skin tones.
Excerpt from Lupita Nyong’o’s speech during the Essence Black Women in Hollywood event, 2014:
I want to take this opportunity to talk about beauty, black beauty, dark beauty. I received a letter from a girl and I’d like to share just a small part of it with you: “Dear Lupita,” it reads, “I think you’re really lucky to be this black but yet this successful in Hollywood overnight. I was just about to buy Dencia’s Whitenicious cream to lighten my skin when you appeared on the world map and saved me.”
My heart bled a little when I read those words, I could never have guessed that my first job out of school would be so powerful in and of itself and that it would propel me to be such an image of hope in the same way that the women of The Color Purple were to me.
I remember a time when I too felt unbeautiful. I put on the TV and only saw pale skin, I got teased and taunted about my night-shaded skin. And my one prayer to God, the miracle worker, was that I would wake up lighter-skinned. The morning would come and I would be so excited about seeing my new skin that I would refuse to look down at myself until I was in front of a mirror because I wanted to see my fair face first. And every day I experienced the same disappointment of being just as dark as I was the day before. I tried to negotiate with God, I told him I would stop stealing sugar cubes at night if he gave me what I wanted, I would listen to my mother’s every word and never lose my school sweater again if he just made me a little lighter. But I guess God was unimpressed with my bargaining chips because He never listened.
And when I was a teenager my self-hate grew worse, as you can imagine happens with adolescence. My mother reminded me often that she thought that I was beautiful but that was no conservation, she’s my mother, of course she’s supposed to think I am beautiful. And then … Alek Wek. A celebrated model, she was dark as night, she was on all of the runways and in every magazine and everyone was talking about how beautiful she was. Even Oprah called her beautiful and that made it a fact. I couldn’t believe that people were embracing a woman who looked so much like me, as beautiful. My complexion had always been an obstacle to overcome and all of a sudden Oprah was telling me it wasn’t. It was perplexing and I wanted to reject it because I had begun to enjoy the seduction of inadequacy. But a flower couldn’t help but bloom inside of me, when I saw Alek I inadvertently saw a reflection of myself that I could not deny. Now, I had a spring in my step because I felt more seen, more appreciated by the far away gatekeepers of beauty. But around me, the preference for my skin prevailed, to the courters that I thought mattered I was still unbeautiful. And my mother again would say to me you can’t eat beauty, it doesn’t feed you and these words plagued and bothered me; I didn’t really understand them until finally I realized that beauty was not a thing that I could acquire or consume, it was something that I just had to be.
And what my mother meant when she said you can’t eat beauty was that you can’t rely on how you look to sustain you. What is fundamentally beautiful is compassion for yourself and for those around you. That kind of beauty enflames the heart and enchants the soul. It is what got Patsey in so much trouble with her master, but it is also what has kept her story alive to this day. We remember the beauty of her spirit even after the beauty of her body has faded away.
And so I hope that my presence on your screens and in the magazines may lead you, young girl, on a similar journey. That you will feel the validation of your external beauty but also get to the deeper business of being beautiful inside.
There is no shade to that beauty.
You can listen to the whole speech at – Lupita Nyong’o, Essence Black Women in Hollywood, 2014.
Yes Lupita! we hear you loud and clear.
As your mother says, we cannot eat beauty and we cannot rely on how we look to sustain ourselves. It is our inner beauty that defines us – the kind of beauty that enflames the heart and enchants the soul.
*All images used in this article are either Eyra’s own design or widely and freely available on the internet.*